Finding Yourself in an Unhappy Marriage?

Finding Yourself in an Unhappy Marriage?So your marriage didn’t exactly turn out how you expected and you find yourself ready to file for divorce. This can be a long and painful experience if not done correctly. Since you are obviously unhappy in your marriage, the last thing you want is a drawn out, ugly divorce. Luckily there are some things to keep in mind to make the process as pain free and quick as possible.

Divorce mediation might be a better solution than hiring an attorney if you are looking for a more amicable way of handling things. Often times you will find that Judges will order mediation, so why not just start with mediation in the first place? There are many reasons why using a mediation service might be the best way to get your divorce processed. First using a mediator is a great solution if you want to avoid costly attorneys and courtroom scenes.

Typically attorneys have a bad reputation, and often it is hard to figure out who to go to. Rather than spend all that time meeting in consultations with various attorneys until you find one you like, simply research mediators. You simply meet with a mediator who helps both sides come to an amicable division of the assets involved. This is great because it is a friendlier and more mature and amicable environment. Both sides are in agreement that they want to work together to get things figured out. The second reason why using a mediator is a great solution is because it is a lot faster than a typical divorce process. Since you are not in Court, you don’t have hearings, or long depositions and trials.

Since the Courts are usually so busy with all the different things they handle, you are often waiting weeks or months between hearings. This can make the process drag out unnecessarily. You want to just move on from the situation and this is the easiest and fastest way to do so. Third, another benefit to using a mediator is that it dramatically cuts down on your expenses associated with the divorce. You don’t have to pay all the attorneys fees or Court related costs. All you do is pay the mediator which usually is much more reasonable than an attorney’s hourly rate.

A fourth reason why using a mediator might suit your needs best is the equitable fairness you will both receive during the process. The mediator’s job is to help both parties come to an agreement in the division of the assets and other pieces involved in the splitting up process. You won’t deal with attorneys arguing back and forth with one another or a judge making a decision. You are in control and get to decide together the outcome. So if you find yourself in that uncomfortable situation where divorce is the only or the best option for your marriage, then take this information to heart and consider using the services of a mediator to best help get through this difficult time.

If on the other hand you want a traditional lawyer to help you through your separation and divorce proceedings then you are in luck. Attorney J. Scott Gunn has been practicing for 18 years and is experienced in the field of family law and can assist you with the process. 


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