Divorce is devastating. Even if you believe that you are looking forward to it because of the peace you will feel once your marriage is over, it is difficult and heartbreaking. However, even if you are having one of the more amicable divorces and things seem to be going smoothly, things can change quickly.
Before you file for divorce, or tell your spouse that you believe that you are headed that way, you should begin to put money away. Once the divorce is in full swing, your spouse may freeze all the assets of the family and you may have to live on what you have saved. This is common in divorce and it is recommended that you prepare for such a situation.
Next, you should get a hold of a good attorney in your area. Your attorney should be well connected with other lawyers in family law and have a good working relationship with others. Sometimes someone who is knowledgeable in the law, but abrasive to his colleagues can cause problems for you in the long run. Ask your friends who have been divorced, or find an attorney online. You should interview the attorney just like you would anyone else who you are hiring to work for you.
Then, you will want to analyze your joint checking accounts, bank records, credit cards and other financial ties to your spouse. It is important to understand that if they still have charging privileges on credit cards, you may be responsible for those charges. There have been multiple times when a spouse has emptied the bank accounts and made unnecessary charges out of revenge. Don’t think it can’t happen to you, because it can.
You have every right to separate your financial liabilities as soon as you can. And you should so that you don’t end up with the short end of the stick.
Once your financial ties are in order, you also need to think about keeping records about your children. Your children will be affected during the divorce no matter what you try to do. You will want to present your side of the story to the judge. The judge will make decisions based on how much he knows about your family. If you have kept records it shows that you are knowledgeable about the struggle your children are having, it also allows the judge to have a window into their everyday lives so that they can make a decision based on what is best for the children.
If you live in the Greensboro area, please don’t hesitate to call Greensboro Divorce Attorneys and ask for help with these steps. Your life is about to change, you should get the help you need to make the next phase of your life joyful.